How You Can Talk To Your Partner About Your Depression


Are you trying to treat your depression for the first time? You probably don’t even know where to start. It’s no secret that seeking treatment for the first time can be very scary. Below are some tips that can help to make seeking a new depression treatment a tad bit easier.

One way to combat depression is to stay socially active. Depression may cause you to want to avoid these activities. It is very important to keep up with these things. Continue to do your normal daily activities. When you neglect what you should normally be doing, you can sometimes get discouraged and more depressed.

If you suffer from depression and are looking into self help solutions, you should strongly consider joining a support group that deals specifically with depression. This is a great way to connect with other people who understand what you are going through and you will be able to motivate each other to get better.

A warm bath can be a soothing experience if you’re feeling depressed. Soft music, a book, or even lighting candles can change an ordinary bath into a relaxing experience. A warm bath can also help relax your muscles so that you physically feel more relaxed, which can contribute to feelings of well-being.

Always think of depression as you would any other disorder or disease because that is exactly what it is. You don’t need to hide it from the world and you should be sure to get medical assistance if you feel the depression is lasting longer than a normal amount of sadness.

One of the best things you can do if you suffer from depression is to work on fixing personal problems in your life. Break down large, complex problems into small goals that you can easily accomplish. Work at only one or two goals at a time and you will be surprised at how quickly you will be able to fix your problems and create a better life for yourself.

Never apply the crazy label to yourself. First of all it is completely inaccurate but secondly it will only cause you to fall further and further into a state of despair. Avoid giving yourself any labels at all and try your best to just focus on being the best you possibly can.

Although having a boyfriend or girlfriend may seem like the answer to all of your depression problems, it is not. It is very possible to have a healthy relationship even when you are depressed but you should not look at the relationship itself as the key or solution to your problems.

Eat healthy meals at least three times a day. Sometimes poor nutrition can exacerbate depression. Treat your body with respect and eat healthy foods even if you do not feel hungry. Try to eat at the same times of day so that your natural cycles will be in sync.

As you have seen, treating depression is not as scary as it may appear at first. Just think of all of the benefits it can give you and how beginning treatment now can improve the quality of your life much sooner. Get some help from your doctor, and try applying these tips to help you conquer your depression.

8 Responses to “How You Can Talk To Your Partner About Your Depression”

  • jordenkotor:

    Depression sufferer of at least eight years and medication and therapy has not worked well. I continue to have uncontrollable anger and self harm and/or abuse substances daily and cannot seem to stop. This has been going on for 3-4 years. If I were to go to the hospital for inpatient care, how long would I be there? What would it be like? What would I do about school (i’m a senior)? Will it work? What else do I need to know about it?

  • RuMKilleR:

    I dont think i have it because im very happy and have fun with my son but once his grandma comes home, my attitude totally changes, shes annoying but i cant complain to her because she is letting me live with her. But the problem is that i loved hanging out with her before i had my son, but once i had my son i cant be in the same room with her, i get mad at her and i just want to know what the signs are for postpartum depression.

  • tefa_96:

    I am 21 weeks pregnant now, my b*f left me while i was 5 weeks pregnant cause i was getting so moody for his ex girlfriend who cheated on him numerous times. at first i thought it was just a fling and he’d come back. obviously it didn’t work that way. I have been sick and he doesnt call me or try to talk to me or help out in any way possible, but he will be fighting for custody.
    I think i am over him but then its nights like this when i realize im not, and i dont think i ever will be. Hes the father of my child, and my first love. I cant get him out of my mind. Every little thing reminds me of him and try to fight it, i just cant. Do you think ill ever be able to move on with me life? cause i dont

  • Peter:

    I really want a baby more then anything, my partner had a vasectomy when he was with a x and even if he would get it revirsed it costs way too much is really getting me down and making me really depressed.

  • Caltel T:

    I always talk about how I feel….. and my boyfriend always listens and is great about it… its not that I want advice I just want to let it out. And hes someone I can trust with my feelings…

    But he has told me that sometimes my talking bring him down… Maybe im too negative… and that he gets frustrated because according to him I talk and talk and do nothing about it.

    How much talking about feelings is too much?

    I wonder if I should just keep these things to myself… To me if wouldnt feel like a real relationship without talking about how I feel… it would just feel like dating… and I wouldnt feel the closeness that comes from talking about intimate things… and how would i be able to be intimate in bed without being emotionally connected..I thought a relationship was about communicating.. is it ok to talk about him about how i feel…

    I know that we need to communicate and talk about our feelings.. but how do I know I am going to far???
    i dont think its that I complain..
    but i litterally say… ” i feel this and that way when this happens…” and I wonder about it… and talk about it.. just explore whats going on with myself…

    but like most guys he wants to get to the point and get something done. :) oh well maybe the fact that hes telling me this is a clue that I maybe going to far.. soo.. i guess ill tone it down :)

  • Gundown64:

    Sorry to put this in the parenting section, but the mental health section wasn’t much use to me last time.

    I am twenty years old and have a son of my own. My youngest sister is fifteen, she was diagnosed as clinically depressed around eight months ago. I am near to the only parent figure she has – our Dad passed away when I was thirteen and my Mum is selfish and abusive. My sister has been through all different types of counseling and they’re close to putting her on medication as nothing else works. I’ve seen her change from my lovely young sister to someone completely different. She suffers acute insomnia and she hardly eats anything. She did go through a period of drug use around a year ago but she has been clean for a long time. She is paranoid and frightened of people trying to talk to her. There’s nothing else wrong with her, only depression, but it’s so bad. She’s lost all her personality and I don’t even know anything about her now. She’s had multiple suicide attempts, it’s
    like she’s uncontrollable. It’s got to a point where I’m terrified to let her out of our sight, because any chance she gets she’s harming herself. We have to watch what she’s doing, who she’s with all the time. There’s been a number of times when she’s turned back to drugs in the past. I’ve done everything in my power to help. She won’t talk, eat, sleep. She doesn’t seem to want to do anything and I’m scared that medication won’t help. She hasn’t been living with my Mother for months now, she has been living with me and my older brother sometimes and says she prefers this. What would you do if you were her parent? I’m so stuck on what to do now

  • Alex:

    Hi guys, i have very bad depression and i need help bad. I have been to talk to a psychologist and it hasn’t helped at all. I dont know what to do anymore. I dont feel comfortable talking to my partner, mum or dad. Im depressed because i have a very bad back and im in so much pain and i need a operation to fix it but the surgeon said im to young to have that kind of operation. I was on workcover and now they have stopped paying my weekly payments so im now on disability pension getting hardly any money at all. Im renting a house with my partner and we have a 11 month old son. Im stressed about money all the time, no one will hire me for work because of my back, im the man of the house so i should be a provider but cant be so i feel like im worthless and i feel my partner would be happier with someone with a job. I dont feel good enough and worth any ones time anymore. Each week is a struggle with money and getting stressed out by the smallest things. Because im in so much pain i snap at the smallest thing but dont mean to.
    I just want help so bad and if i dont get it im not sure what will happen. I pretty much hate waking up every morning. :(
    Im now 24 but the operation i need there is only a 3% out of 100% chance it will fix it and not worth the risk at my age. Been to see 2 surgeons and both have said the same thing, Hurt my back when i was 18. I already have had a operation on it and it never worked. I have had physio, hydrotherapy, gym programs, Pilate’s, chiropractor, epidural steroid injections and nothing is working apart from needing the operation.

  • Sir fliesalot:

    He’s tried several different types of anti-depressants and he’s settled on one that helps him sleep. They all only lift him from close to suicide to apathy-nothing more. He can’t cope with life other than small talk with me, trying to hide it from our daughter and a little housework. He smokes an awful lot of weed and gets in the foulest mood if he doesn’t have any, a soon as he has some he’s mediocre again. He won’t go to counseling as he’s tried it before and says he knows what they’ll say and it won’t help, he won’t try any of those little self help techniques as they don’t help either, he won’t talk to me or anyone else as he says talking makes him feel worse and doesn’t help anyway – he’s as stubborn as he’s depressed and won’t do anything other than watch telly, trying not to feel bad. Nothing I do or say will help and I’m bored senseless trying – I’m not depressed myself and ironically I’m a counselor, studying 2B a mental health nurse, how do I handle this?
    Lorelei – He absolutely will not get off the weed – the fights are not worth the bother & I can’t physically force him to get therapy, but I do like your answer.
    Julius C – I hear ya, but I’m not going to throw away my daughter’s daddy, he’s quite a good dad & not really bad to us in anyway just seriously crap company.
    Anymore ideas?

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